I feel like after you leave university there is most definetly a lack of direction. And an innate need to find the perfect career right away. Even though we all know it’s going to take ample time, it can be difficult to hang in there. Especially if your current situation / job is making you want to give up on life altogether.
Personally I continued to work full time after graduating, but even though I have been working (like a dog may I add) 58 hours a week and freelance writing in my spare time (you are right there sparse spare time when you work such long hours but if you have a passion, you simply WILL find time); I felt like a bum because I’m not doing a graduate job linked to my degree or what I have studied. I’m simply working a job to pay my bills, and that’s not what I want.
So, de-motivated and lacking energy I decided to take charge; scouring job sites for hours on end. Applying for any job even remotely close to what I want to do long term. Spending hours on the phone to recruiters who may have had a suitable position – but I would need to first spend an hour in the evening proving myself to someone I didn’t know. But after all the hours and hours of tedious application. Comes the rejection stage.
At one point I was receiving so many rejection emails that I was going to save them all, print them out and create a piece of monochrome,sassy art work. But the heart ache wouldn’t allow me to do so. I deleted them straight away, so that I wouldn’t get too disheartened. Even if your story is not the same as mine, we are all in different positions and stages of life. Rejection, unfortunately is something we will all need to deal with. And I think how you deal with it is important. It shows strength of character, it shows that you are not willing to give up, determination prevails and eventually you will be successful.
I spent four long months applying like a mad woman, spending 100’s of pounds on attending interviews and missing work. But I did it. I got a job with a worthy title. The pay isn’t fantastic, but it’s a role I feel I deserve.
So with all the rejection, hard work whilst maintaining a full time job.. how did I stay motivated?
1. Never forget the end goal
The mind is a strange place, and it can be easily distracted – often when you are attempting something very difficult in life your mind will convince you to try easier routes. Don’t even give in to the temptation. Remember your end goal and stick to it. Even if creating a mood board helps to motivate and inspire you, or writing may help to relieve pressure and share how you feel along the way. Whatever motivates you allow that to positively push you to continue down the difficult, but correct path for yourself.
2. Surround yourself with positivity
I assure you there will be times where you will have emotional breakdowns. During these times you need strong support systems in order to uplift you, and help you keep going. Whether it be family you can speak to, friends you confide in, or simply crying down the phone to your boyfriend. Let out the frustration and listen to the ones who care for you. They know you will make it in the end, and it’s sometimes easier for them to see it because they aren’t the ones living it. They will remind you to stay positive.
3. Deal with rejection effectively
Everybody in the world gets rejected. But you know what, the most successful people in this world utilise it to push them further. Instead of letting rejection get them down, they use it in the opposite way and become even more motivated. Delete the rejection emails and letters, push them to the back of your mind and remind yourself that if this company has rejected you it wasn’t the right place for you anyway. Even after interviews if potential employers don’t even get back to you, just brush it off. Clearly you weren’t right for them. But you will be right for someone out there.
Happy searching my loves, I hope this post reminds you that you are all worth it. Always strive to be the best and achieve your goals, no matter how difficult.