Why millennials are struggling with mental health issues

opinion piece

In a world where we compete to look like we are living our best life on social media, how many of us can honestly say we are truly happy?

Putting on a false smile in front of the camera, teeth gleaming, hair blowing in the wind – all whilst having a panic attack, intense palpitations, sweats of bead building on your palms. Look at you. You’re a walking contradiction. Your 10k followers on Instagram believe you lead the perfect life, but behind closed doors you often have dark intrusive thoughts. Penetrating thoughts that lead you to believe that you are worthless, lazy and a failure.

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Whilst social media may heighten the pressure young people feel to portray a perfect life style, it is far from the only issue contributing to mental health declination. Just imagine being trapped at your parental home until the ripe age of at least 28, working the most tedious job because employers won’t employ you in the sector you desire to work in; due to lack of ‘’experience’’- yet no one will give you a chance to gain experience. £40,000 worth of debt just to educate yourself, which in turn seems pointless as no one will give you a break? Brexit talks heighten the air of uncertainty. Political misdemeanour’s (corporate manslaughter at Grenfell Tower) and austerity push everyone to the limit both financially and socially. Young males being stabbed all around you on a daily basis. This is just the tip of the iceberg, I could go on.

Would you want to live like this? Choosing between having children or a stable career? Working full time and still not being able to afford decent food?

Sounds like a really messed up Hollywood film right? Because this is the reality of how most millennials are living right now.

I believe that our generation are struggling. It is not entirely impossible to succeed in the current climate; it just takes a lot of determination and discipline. But naturally we mustn’t forget that all these factors can contribute to a person’s mental state and well-being.  Life in your twenties is naturally a time of self-discovery, finding yourself and who you truly want to be. With these added societal pressures, both off-line and online, it can become overwhelmingly destructive for some people. Individuals will always have personal issues, and these need to be reviewed individually. However, at a time in your life where you yearn to progress and the system keeps beating you down, it is completely de-motivating for young people.

Unfortunately we cannot change politics, or at least the negative trickling effects it can have on us. But what we can change is our attitudes towards mental health. If you see someone updating a Facebook status stating how depressed they are, instead of calling them an attention seeker learn to see it as a cry for help. There have already been so many suicides this year committed by young people. Simple gestures and listening can have the power to help mental health sufferers. We have to keep pushing for change, more recognition, more funding for mental health services.

As fucked up as this system is, it is never going to beat me.  

Yours Sincerely,

Michelle (A struggling journalist pushing for a break)

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Beauty Blog Collective: an intro 

Events & launches

As some of you may or may not know (I have mentioned briefly in the past), I used to write and review beauty products for Really Ree. However, a couple of weeks ago myself and the other contributors were sent a message explaining that Ree no longer wanted us to write for her. She was changing the direction of the website, and wanted to focus solely on her reviews. 

We had a fantastic time reviewing products for the site; receiving some amazing products and receiving exposure from one of the biggest beauty blogs in the UK! A truly great experience. 

After some consideration, we decided that we weren’t done with it. It wasn’t the end for us, seven of us decided to create our own beauty blog. Beauty Blog Collective is now up and running, at its humble beginnings just yet…but we’ve got amazing plans on the horizon. 

It’s really inspiring to work amongst such hard working women. We’re all extremely, terribly busy people – but we all seem to manage to find time to do what we love. Beauty is a passion that we share, and we’re all normal women. That is exactly what we aim to represent, different types of women who have a passion for beauty. 

Here’s to the future! 🥂 

Missbeez – an innovative mobile beauty app 

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You’ve all heard about the recent disaster that is TFL refusing to renew Uber’s contract in London? Of course you have. 

But I’m not here to discuss that scandal. Uber is that reliable taxi every Londoner loves on a boozy night out. What could be more convenient than a taxi at your service at low prices? Uber changed the face is transpiration, I’m convinced there will be an entire  generation of people who do not possess driving licences. Simple because a hybrid mixture of public transport and Uber’s are much cheaper than driving in London. Uber tapped into an on demand market. 

So what’s even better than on demand transport? On demand make up and beauty services of course 😍. Missbeez is an app that encorporates just that. You pick the service which you desire, the app searches for relevant beauticians in your local area – you pick one, and you don’t need to pay until after the treatment is carried out. 

I recently had a full face of make up applied by one of their beauticians, all in the comfort of my own home. It’s a brilliant idea for busy individuals – you can book services at the drop of a hat. 


I would recommend this app to every avid beauty fan. You can pick from an array of salon services at regular prices, with the added benefit of not moving from your bedroom. 

Laziness, and beauty treatments on demand!? Sounds like a dream world to me! 

The art of comparison: how Instagram is detrimental to female self-esteem 

opinion piece

I’ve had severe ups and downs with Instagram. It’s both my favourite and worst social media app. Because on the outside, it’s aesthetically pleasing to scroll through people’s seemingly perfect lives, perfect selfies, perfect food and their perfect relationships. But we often forget, usually, a huge amount of effort has gone into constructing these images. It’s fake.

As females we all have days where we are insecure. And unfortunately with social media girls of younger and younger ages are aware of their looks – and feeling an innate pressure to be conventionally attractive. Adhering to false beauty standards portrayed on social media. Now Instagram, being a visually based app – and thriving off of a like for like and comment for comment culture can breed self esteem issues.

Of course, it’s not a new concept for the media to convey unattainable beauty standards. This has been the case for traditional media platforms for most of cultural history, however the online realm; and in particular Instagram has accelerated this. Let me tell you why.

The app itself is, of course, irresponsible for a high increase in young girls developing mental health issues plagued by body image or self esteem. It’s how the app is used, and the nature of the characteristics of the app. It’s so fast moving, that users often feel pressure to upload. They have followers and ‘Insta celebrities’ they aspire to be like – and therefore this often breeds a competitive nature. Or a feeling of inferiority.

The art of comparison is what is killing our young girls souls. Scrolling through pretentious images, constructed for social validation. Comparing yourself to images that are fake. Comparing your life, your goals, your face, your ass and your entirety to someone you’ve never even met.

Possibly one of the worst things you can do in the cut throat world of Instagram is to compare. You must must must always stay grounded, remembering that most of these images are socially constructed. And even if they aren’t, everyone progresses at their own pace in life. You are doing great and that’s all you need to watch.

Survival of the fittest.

How to take flattering pictures even if you aren’t attractive 

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Like your Instagram profile is basically your portfolio these days. So of course, without sounding totally shallow and like a materialistic Bitch. You need to look good. Obviously there is more to life than looking good. But it’s just better if you do also happen to appear to look good. Don’t ask questions just go with it. 

Typically speaking I don’t have the most photogenic features and I really do understand the struggle to take a good pic, so over the years I have picked up a few fail safe tricks to ensure the perfect selfie prevails. 

Here’s my top tips; 

1. Flash is not your friend 

Listen, unless you are a professional photographer or you look like Angelina Jolie I would not use flash in any circumstance. Avoid it like the plague. It shows every little blemish

2. Natural 

Of course good lighting will make all the difference to a photo, and you can’t beat natural light. I often stand next to windows or in areas where you know there is good natural lighting. This may involve awkwardly moving around a bit with camera phone in hand, and shuffling until you find the right spot

3. Base 

Of course your face needs to look great off camera too before you even attempt to get a good selfie. What I do is tend to try and contour the areas I don’t like, for example my nose. I straighten it as much as possible with darker lines, on camera it will look much better. This is also where highlighter comes in, you can highlight the points you do want to accentuate 

4. Filters 

Sometimes it just takes the right angle and filter to make a photo great. I know this isn’t great photography and it’s not very innovative – but it’s just what you need sometimes. If you use one which makes you look perfect and flawless then why not? 

Happy selfie Sunday! 💕 

Dedicated follower of Instagram 

top tips

So like it’s totally acceptable to not have a typical 9-5 job and just pursue a career on Instagram right? 

How? I hear you say. However there are people who make serious money off of their Instagram fame, using thousands of followers to launch their own brand. 

Once you reach a certain amount of followers, brand ambassadors and independant companies may pay you to advertise their products. This is just the beginning. Before you know it, you could be sent free samples of new products, and get invited to exclusive premieres and launches. Not too shabby hey! Getting paid to be completely narcissistic and take constructed selfies all day sounds like an absolute dream to me. #lifegoals 

I only have 4K followers myself, which I guess is a decent amount. And often people ask how I’ve gained so many followers.. Here are my top tips: 

1. Get active 

Quite literally. You need to be as active as you possibly can on Instagram. Once you aren’t engaged you will lose followers faster than you can say bye Bitch 🖐🏻 

2. Be that girl 

Sometimes in life you have to lower your standards to get where you need to be. I’m not encouraging you to upload naked pictures or leak a sex tape (although I heard that works out successfully for some individuals!?). No, you need to be that sufficiently annoying girl that likes everyone’s pictures and leaves nicey nice comments. It’s the only way to get noticed and gain. Think of the gains!!! 

3. Tag team 

Tagging events you go to, using relevant hashtags & being tagged in other people’s pictures can also help. Especially if you go to a fairly big event, or you are with someone else who has a huge following on Instagram. This will also gain more followers. 

4. High maintenance 

Once you’ve gained like your first 1000 followers, it becomes second nature. You must must must upkeep and maintain your profile and activity. It’s no good posting once a month – you’ll be forgotten. If you can’t manage to post because of real life commitments, you just stay active and do what you can to keep the followers you do gain. 
Get gramming! Beware Instagram can be addictive. Remember it isn’t real life kids. ✌🏻️ (Follow me: @versaceblonde)